Excerpts from UCB's Word for Today.
Rule 1:
We all recognize that if we want to become healthier, fitter or stronger in the future, we have to put the hard graft in now.
We have to be disciplined and train hard, follow an eating plan and a training programme, and get the support and encouragement we need if we're going to achieve those kinds of things. However much we might wish it, we won't just wake up one morning and find we've lost two stone after following a diet of junk food.
So why is it that when it comes to relationships, we think we can do what we want? The world tells us we can snog as many potential suitors as we like, sleep with anyone with a pulse - male or female. 'You don't have to be faithful, not while you're young.' 'Experiment - it won't harm you.' You think?
If we don't practice being a loyal, faithful, loving partner now, we won't suddenly turn into one the day we decide to walk down the aisle. Start practicing today who you want to be in the future so when the time comes you will be able to 'Relish life with the spouse you love, each and every day.'
Rule 2:
OK, so you may not be married quite yet - may not even be thinking about it - but one day you might. But before we get there, God can still teach us something for today from this verse: 'Relish life with the spouse you love, each and every day'. Wow, get that! God doesn't just want us to enjoy good relationships, He wants us to have relationships we can relish - where we're totally loving every minute. God really does want you to have great friends, build great relationships, the kind that make you smile and make your life easier to handle!
So if your life is a little low on the friendship front today, pray. Ask God for some great relationships, knowing that's exactly what He wants for you too. Ask Him for help in finding the right friends and choosing the ones that will build you up, not drag you down. God promises, 'I will guide you along the best pathway for your life. I will advise you and watch over you' (Ps. 32:8 NLT).
And while you're at it, if you're hoping one day to be married, why not start praying now for the your future husband or wife. Talk to God about it, knowing He cares about this too. Ask Him to help you now to grow into the best wife or husband you can be so you will be ready to 'Relish life with the spouse you love, each and every day'.
Rule 3:
After God put the first man, Adam, in the Garden of Eden, He said; 'It's not good for the Man to be alone; I'll make him a helper, a companion' (Gen. 2:18 TM). God chose to give Adam someone who would be compatible with his needs - we know her as Eve. This was a brilliant relationship - the way God intended them to be. They got on great with God, they walked with Him and chatted to Him every day; they had a great place to live, things to do and enjoy, scrumptious food; and they loved each other. There was no arguing - it was mint! But things went horribly wrong after they disobeyed God. Instead of doing what God said, 'You can eat from any tree in the garden, except from the Tree-of-Knowledge-of-Good-and-Evil. Don't eat from it' (Gen. 2:16), they chose to believe the snake "You won't die ... You'll be just like God, (Gen. 3:4) As a result of leaving God out of their relationship - everything went to pot. 'So GOD expelled them from the Garden of Eden and sent them to work the ground' (Gen. 3:23).
The same is true for us today. When we leave God out of our relationships, they become difficult and confusing and we end up hurting each other. Don't make the same mistakes as Adam and Eve; remember God wants you to include Him in everything.
Rule 4:
Now if you're single and not wanting to be, talking about relationships and marriage can totally 'do your head in'. It's easy to run out of patience, thinking God doesn't understand, that He's ignoring you or not giving you who you need. If we've been asking for His help and nothing's happened, it can leave us feeling unfairly treated and we can stop trusting God, thinking He doesn't care about us. The thing is, when we try to get ahead of God we end up with regrets - we make mistakes that can be devastating, heartbreaking.
Before you were born, God knew you: 'You made all the delicate, inner parts of my body and knit me together in my mother's womb. Thank you for making me so wonderfully complex!' (Psalm 139: 13-14 NLT). God gave you certain traits and abilities that make you unique. He knows exactly who you would need to help fulfil His purposes and develop the gifts He's given you. Until that happens, remember: He is your spiritual partner! He's been caring for you all along: protecting you, providing for you and directing your steps. He's not going to stop now.
Stop wrestling with your singleness and use this time to develop your relationship with God. Ruth in the Bible kept on trusting in God, no matter how difficult life got. There's a whole book named after her, so read her story - be encouraged discovering how God brought a husband to her in the most extraordinary and seemingly impossible of circumstances.